The enemy will bring accusations against the Christian school, staff, or parts of your school’s policy. These accusations will come from all angles, and may even come from trustworthy people. A sound Christian school will generally use the following steps when an accusation arises (Following the principles and sequences Jesus laid out in Matthew 18): Listen to the accusations one-on-one. If possible, encourage the accuser to discuss the issue with the person the issue is with, such as a parent meeting with the Teacher. If a resolution cannot be met, then meet with a few more staff members, which may include the Administrator. Accusations should not be brought in front of the Board of Trustees unless prior sequences have not come to a resolution.
Not all accusations come from the enemy, some may come from well-intentioned parents or others. The Christian school should carefully weigh the accusation against what the school policy says. Draw a conclusion as to what policy the accusation is addressed. Define what the accusation is and then determine what policy it relates to. Depending on the situation of course, I suggest telling the accuser you need time for study, discussion, and to discuss a resolution, and also give a time to re-convene with them. An example would be: “Now that we understand your issue, we will look at it more closely, and get back to you next Tuesday with our position.” Remembering that patience is a virtue of God, and godly people, if at all possible, stop the discussion, and give yourself time for a resolution. An accusation looses validity if the accuser is not willing to allow time for a resolution.
What if an accusation or attack has no policy pertaining to it? Remembering Romans 8:28-29 that all things work together for good to those that love the Lord and are called according to His purpose, view this as an opportunity for the Lord to work for good in the Christian school. Draft a policy and go through the school’s process of information gathering, review, and if needed, enacting a new responsive and responsible policy. Carefully consider including the accuser in the policy discussions if appropriate. Always consider the biblical viewpoint as the main source of resolve.
Guidelines To Follow
During a time of accusations and attacks, the leadership of the Christian school may decide a specific issue is serious enough, or has ramifications of such a nature, that you will want to use a specific process to work through the issue. Here is a suggested basic guideline or process to follow for the people of leadership taking on this accusation:
1) Pray. Focusing on God, ask Him for wisdom, clear understanding of the issue, recollection of Bible verses that pertain to the issue, clear understanding of those verses in His Word, clear resolution based on His Word, and a love for the accuser and that you portray that love to the accuser as Jesus would.
2) Take time to consider the topic of discussion. Gather information from all sides of the issue for review. Be disciplined to do this, it takes effort, and also portrays the nature of a fair and impartial judge. Give yourself un-interrupted time to consider the gathered information on the issue. If you are the one person dealing with the issue, close your office door and deal with it. If merited, schedule time with one or more of the school’s staff that are involved with the issue, or possibly one or more members of the schools Board of Directors for their viewpoints if needed. Remember, this is the information stage, not the counsel stage (see below)
3) Discover the root of the problem. Does it stem from a misunderstanding? Does it come from immaturity? Ask if this could be an attack from the enemy. Ask what sin this issue has arisen from. (pride, selfishness, hatred, lack of respect for authority, covetousness, etc.). If need be, you may have to drill down that far, to address a specific sin that has started this issue. Possibly, the root of the issue could be there is no policy or rules governing the issue.
4) Consider solutions (if any). Remember the Bible is solid and foundational. Your school policy is probably solid and foundational. Your staff is probably solid and trustworthy. Use these sources to come up with several solutions.
5) Envision or “play out” the results of those solutions. Maybe a list of pros and cons. Ask “what would be the result if we…”
6) Study the Bible for God’s answer. Use a topical bible, or similar resource method of helping find passages that relate to the issue, or the root cause/sin of the issue.
7) Consult counsel if needed. God says a wise man seeks godly counsel. Does the situation require Legal counsel? Pastoral counsel? Possibly discuss the situation with the leadership of another Christian school, as they may have already dealt with a similar issue.
8) Keep it simple, and keep it biblical.
Keep it Simple, and Keep it Biblical
I always suggest this: Keep it simple, and keep it Biblical. All accusations should always be answered with Scripture. When Jesus faced accusations or temptations from the enemy in Matthew 4:1-11, he always answered quoting the Bible. You cannot go wrong if you keep it simple, and keep it Biblical.
In the book of Psalms there occasionally is the word “selah”. That word is sadly not part of our English vocabulary. Maybe you can make it a common word in your life, and your school. It literally means “to pause, ponder, and think about that”. Whenever you are dealing with a situation, and you keep it simple and keep it biblical, remember to also “selah”. It is amazing the peace, strength, and wisdom God will give you when you “be still and know that I am God”, and take just a few moments to pause, ponder, and think about the Bible passage at hand, and relate it to your situation.
Remember, you don’t want to change your school’s policy unless absolutely necessary. Remember to act, say, and do as Jesus would with love, wisdom, maturity, and professionalism.
Copyright 2012 Kevin Brownlee