When disciplining a student, treat the situation with CARE:
Communication. Connect with the student in a way that he/she understands your authority, and also that you care deeply about them and their growth from the situation. Be sure to listen to the student, it is a two-way conversation. (Romans 13:1-5; Proverbs 13:14)
Assessing the situation such as why this happened, who was involved (if appropriate) what started the situation and their thinking process, when did this happen, and was it a quick response or a well thought out devious plan. Your intention here is to get to the student’s heart of the matter, because their heart is what you will be correcting. (Proverbs 18:13,17, 20:5, Luke 6:45, Psalm 139:23-24)
Repentance is the goal, from their heart, which means accepting and understanding the wrong that was committed, the sin involved, the need for repentance, and the understanding of not doing it again. Grace and Truth must be included, but also explain the disciplinary action and why it must occur. (Proverbs 13:24, 22:15, Hebrews 4:16, 12:11, John 1:14, 1 John 1:9)
Encouragement is how to end each situation where the student is encouraged of God’s, and your, love for them. They have learned to be a better person in God’s eyes because of this situation, and that they are forgiven and are leaving with a restored heart that is encouraged to live for Jesus, who is the center of their view of themself and others. (Galatians 6:1-2, John 15, Hebrews 3:12-15)
There is a school Principal who has a specific chair in his office that he calls the “Hot Seat”. When a student is in trouble, he is sent to the Principals office and told to sit in that seat. I got to thinking about that, and would like to suggest to him it be called the “CARE Chair”. Maybe he even put the word “CARE” as a reminder of how to treat the situation.
This reminds me of a saying that is somewhat relative here: “They won’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”