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Have you ever read a passage in the Bible, that you find yourself drawn to reading again, and again?  Maybe a passage that tells you something different each time?

While doing a little search in the Bible for the prayers of Paul, I came across such a passage.  For weeks, I have been drawn back to this passage nearly every day.  At least to me, it is fascinating, and I discover something new each time.

And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more in knowledge and all discernment, that you may approve the things that are excellent, that you may be sincere and without offense till the day of Christ, being filled with the fruits of righteousness which are by Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God. (Philippians 1:9-11 NKJV)

The first time I read this passage, I thought “I will try to be like that”.  The next time I thought “I know a Christian friend that needs to read this passage and work on a few things.” And the next time “I need to teach my family to do what this passage says”, then the next time I thought “I REALLY need to do what this passage says!”

Then something in this passage struck me as not being right. There is a word that does not belong there, or is incorrect. That was disturbing, because why would Paul (guided by the Holy Spirit) put a word in his paragraph that shouldn’t be? (It is an insignificant word, that I am sure most people pass right over.) I thought about that off and on throughout the day recently until it dawned on me that word is the most important part of this passage.  That word is pivotal to the passage. It is the foundation of Paul’s prayer.

It is the word “in”.

The first part of this passage, Paul’s prayer is that the recipients of his letter know that he was praying that their love would abound still more and more.

The second part of this passage is his prayer that they have knowledge and all discernment.

Those are two different things. Two different topics. Love is the first topic, knowledge and discernment is the other.  Both are needed, sort of like healthy food and exercise or hard work, but they are completely different.

So why does Paul not put a grammatical separator between these two different topics?

Another thought was maybe “in” is supposed to be “of”.  That would certainly make the passage complete.  Paul would be saying then that you should have growing love of knowledge and all discernment…  That certainly works.  I am sure we ARE to have a love for those things and I am sure Paul would say so too. But it does not say “of”.  It says “in”.

I came to realize that you cannot have good, godly, meaningful, productive knowledge and discernment without love.  In fact, you cannot continue to do the rest of that passage without love.  Much like you cannot have good , meaningful, productive exercise or work without food (fuel) in your stomach.

You see, God is love.  Love permeates all He does. Since we are part of a relationship that involves God, our self, our family, and our friends, love MUST be part of that relationship.  For us Christians to be effective for Him, we MUST HAVE “abounding” (ever growing and overflowing) love at our heart.

says: “Since you have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit in sincere love of the brethren, love one another fervently with a pure heart,”. (1 Peter 1:22 NKJV)

We must have love IN our heart as we pursue and do these items Paul mentions:

-“Knowledge.” This is knowledge of the Bible. We must read/study our Bible. This will give us intelligent affection toward others.

-“Discernment.” You must have biblical knowledge to have biblical discernment.  Discernment is an action word, it is the ability to choose correctly between right and wrong. It is to have good judgment. To have practical application of knowledge.

-“Approve all things that are excellent.” Using knowledge, and discernment, we can recognize excellent things, and approve of them.  Conversely, we can recognize the bad things, and avoid them, or get them out of our lives. We can point out these excellent and/or bad things to our family and friends with love.  Later in his letter, Paul gives a list of things he considers excellent: “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.” (Php 4:8)

-“That you may be sincere”. Sincere means to be pure, genuine, judged by sunlight. (in biblical times when purchasing pottery, you would hold the pot up to the sunlight to make sure it did not have thin places in the wall of the pot, or have cracks that the seller would fill with wax to temporarily hold fluids. Those that looked strong and flawless in the sunlight were called sincere)

-“Without offense”. The Greek word used here literally means “to lead into sin.”

-“Filled with the fruits of righteousness”.  Being righteous produces fruit. “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.” (Gal 5:22-23)

So, Paul is praying that love must be IN our efforts of studying the Bible so we may distinguish between good and bad things to be flawless and strong so we will not be led into sin, but bear fruit out of our righteousness. Fruit is the actions we do. Walking our talk.  We MUST have love in all our biblically based actions we do.

It is my prayer as well that all of you overflow with love which will permeate your biblically based decisions and actions as you endeavor to grow and maintain a righteous and fruitful life.

 

Question: What Bible passage do you read often, that God speaks to you differently nearly each time you read it?

 

Copyright 2012  Kevin Brownlee

“Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance.” ~Titus 2:2

Your school’s Administration, Teachers, Coaches, and Staff are to maintain certain qualities.  As mentioned in a previous post, Teachers are to be true biblical Christians. In addition to that, this portion of the passage has specific qualities that I am sure God wants teachers to have. We will look at each one individually (this post is the second on verse 2):

 

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This one is huge!  Pay attention to this quality of teachers, it is important, and takes a lot of effort. Do your Christian school or home school teachers love to teach?  Do they love the subject they teach? Here is a tough one: do they love their students?  Here is an even tougher one: do their students love them?   I am reminded of the line from a song from several years ago that says: “they will know we are Christians by our love”; can that be said about your schools teachers? Can it be said about you?

Here is a saying that I really like, because I have found it to be so, so true: “Your students won’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”  Take that to heart.  It takes effort to show love in the classroom, and it takes EXTRA effort to show the same love to every student without partiality.  Paul started out the “love chapter” in 1 Corinthians 13 by saying that without love, a person could be like sounding brass, or a clanging cymbal. (Just a bunch of noise).  And then in the next sentence, Paul said even though he may have lot of gifts such as understanding, knowledge, and faith, without love, he was nothing.  Then, he said next that even with all his good deeds and sacrifices he made, they were worthless without love. So from that, I could stand on fairly firm ground saying that a teacher without love is nothing but a worthless bunch of noise.

The Bible commands us to love.  In John 15:2, Jesus commands us to love one another.  And in Matthew 22, a Lawyer asked Jesus about the greatest commandment and Jesus’ answer to him (and us) was to love God with all your heart, soul, and mind, and then He quickly added that the second is like it, that you should love your neighbor as yourself.  Teachers should model this love.  Going back to Paul’s love chapter where he mentions the elements that make up love.  I am sure you know them, but they need to ALL be part of teacher’s love:  Love is patient, kind and caring, not envious, not prideful or boastful, is not rude, not selfish, not provoked, does not seek revenge; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.  Love never fails.  Teachers, please work on genuinely having all of those.

A sound Christian school will obey the commands of the Bible to love, and be characterized by all elements of love from 1 Corinthians 13.

 

During the annual graduation ceremony at our Christian school, nearly every graduating senior that has an opportunity to speak at the podium, mentions the very same thing: they thank a specific teacher.  That particular teacher has made a positive impact on each student, and they say things like:  “I want to thank “Mr. G” for helping me get through these last few years”, “Thank you Mr. G for your help and guidance”, “I want to thank Mr. G for just listening to me”, “Mr. G, without you, I don’t know how I would have made it.”  “Mr. G., you are a blessing to this school, and to me.”

So… does your school have a “Mr. G”?  Do you have more than one?  If you are a teacher, are you that type of person to your students?  The teenage years are rough for students, and getting rougher as the character and morality of our society dwindles, even in a Christian school, so are you helping them through it with biblical based guidance?  Are you someone they can come to in complete confidence and trust?  Parents may be doing everything right in raising their teens, but a school still needs at least one “Mr. G”.  He loves the students and they know it.  Mr. G. is a real person, and a real honor to Jesus whom he loves and serves in his job.  He does not assess his effectiveness as a teacher or his love for students by whether they love him back or mention his name at graduation, but by his obedience to the Word of God.

A sound Christian school will have a “Mr. G.” that students can confide in for biblical based guidance, support, or to just listen to them in confidence. “Mr. G” is effective because he honors and models the Word of God.

 

One additional thought I would like to mention here is about teens again.  One of the difficulties in being a teen is acceptance.  Teens are going through the period in their life where they want to be independent, and their own person, and to be accepted as a valued person.  Teachers can tend to not recognize this, and fail to convey to the teen they have value.  If you are a teacher of teens, please make an “from the heart” effort to make each teen feel valued.  Also, teens hear a lot of rules, and get disciplined and corrected for breaking those rules, as they should.  However, this should be done in a way that still lets them know they are important and have value, and is not demeaning to them, and they need reassurance that their value as a person is not diminished.  One suggestion on how to do this, is to explain what the rule was that they broke, and why the rule exists, why disciplinary action needs to occur, how the discipline will help them not break the rule again, and then after the discipline, reassure them that you have forgotten the offense, iterate your acceptance of them, and your confidence in them. Oh, and if appropriate, give them a hug.

A sound Christian school will instill value in their students, even during discipline.

This is another post in this series of Paul’s “letter” to Teachers & Christian schools. The next post will be in 3 days on Thursday.

Copyright 2012  Kevin Brownlee